I ask this question because if you’ve spent even a modest amount of time attempting to make money online, whether creating your own products and/or promoting the products of others, by now you will have found out that it isn’t easy; many of the steps are simple BUT there are so many ‘moving parts’ that frequently you can hit roadblocks that can negatively affect your motivation to carry on doing this stuff.
So, it is useful every so often to sit back and ‘take inventory’ with ourselves, in other words, check if there is something inside ourselves holding us back.
If you have a period of reflection, you can often find that you might have a limiting belief or two, and you might even have to review and reset your goals.
Everyone has conscious or subconscious ideas that can become limiting beliefs. These beliefs have the ability to stop us from achieving our goals if we let them. Sometimes these beliefs are instilled in us in childhood and sometimes we create them ourselves.
For example, how you see yourself with money can be a limiting belief that can get in your way of success.
If you believe you will always struggle and always be poor, chances are you’ll set yourself up for failure. The limiting belief that you’re poor and that you always will be becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The same can be said about anything negative in your life that limits you.
Whether it’s career, education, or personal such as being healthy and fit. If you see yourself a certain way, it can be hard to change that view and let go of that limiting belief.
Did you know there are eight telling phrases that point to a limiting belief? Let’s go over them now:
– It’s hopeless
Anytime you use the word “never” it’s a clue that you’re focusing on a limiting belief. For example “I’ll never have any money because takes money to make money.”
– I’m helpless
When most people feel uneducated or helpless, they blame their circumstances instead of working to change them. “I can’t manage my money because I don’t know how” sounds insightful, but the part that’s missing is the feeling of helplessness when all you need to do is take a personal finance course or buy, read and practice the lessons in a book like Personal Finances for Dummies or The Total Money Makeover which are both available on Amazon.com
– It’s useless
The idea that nothing you do will make a difference is a very powerful self-limiting belief. If you believe that, any action you take won’t make a difference it takes away your will to even try and reach your goals.
Have you ever thought to yourself?
– “It doesn’t matter if I exercise an hour a day, I won’t lose weight?”
– Or “It doesn’t matter how hard I work I’ll never get that promotion?”
That kind of negative self-talk has the power to keep you from moving forward.
– The universe is out to get me
Sometimes a limiting belief has to do with the idea that outside forces that you can’t control are at work keeping you down. You can’t find a job or get clients because the economy sucks, where you live is depressed, you don’t have the right clothing and so forth, but you do nothing in your power to change it because it’s destiny. “Everything happens for a reason” type of thinking can be very limiting and make you feel powerless.
– I’m worthless
The idea that you’re not smart enough or good enough to do what you really want can be a very strong limiting belief system and seems to affect women more than men. You feel you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, or good enough to have something, so you don’t take the steps to achieve it, because you don’t feel that you deserve it.
– It’s genetic
While there are certainly some instances where genetics play a huge role in a person’s life, the truth is that almost everything that is genetic can be fixed with the right mindset, training, exercise, and outlook. You’re not stuck with your genetics, but if you think you are, you may not try any of the things to pull yourself out of the rut you’re stuck in.
– I’ll fail
The truth is the fear of failure is something most people have as a limiting belief. “I’m a bad public speaker so if I do it, I’ll be judged, and I’ll fail anyway so why try” is a common refrain. But, how can you set that belief in stone if you’ve not tried?
– I’m different
The limiting belief about being different is that different is necessarily bad. You don’t want to be who you are because you’re different and you’ll be looked at as different by other people. You’re afraid to be who you are, and because of that you don’t even know who you are, and you’re too scared to find out due to fear of rejection and ending up alone.
If you ever hear any of these phrases go through your head, try to disconnect from them, and turn them around to “why not me” instead of “why me.” Always ask “why not me” because the truth is, you’re not feeling anything different from anyone else who has made goals and achieved them. The difference is in the doing, not the intelligence or talent.
Watch what you say to yourself and stand guard at the entrance to your mind because a lot of the time you aren’t what you think, you are so much more.
I hope I’ve given you something to ponder over in this post.
Till next time …
Onward & Upward!